“Comparison is the thief of joy.” —Theodore Roosevelt
We all are guilty of doing it… letting ourselves fall deep down the rabbit hole of comparison. It’s easy to let yourself think negatively while looking at someone who is in a different stage of their life, making advancements in their career, getting into relationships, boasting more Facebook friends, etc. In reality, though, the more you’re comparing yourself to others, the more you are hurting yourself.
When you are envious of someone, you are only seeing an idealized version of them. Everyone has flaws, issues, and hardships that they deal with in life. Everyone is human, including yourself. Here are 3 ways to help you stop comparing yourself to others.
Remember that we’re all human.
We are all human and we all make mistakes. Never lose sight of this small but significant fact. We all come into and leave this world the same way. This fact makes us all equals. What truly sets us apart on our life’s journeys are the internal accomplishments, meaningful relationships, self-acceptance, and the realization of your life’s purpose we learn along the way. No external accomplishments can provide you with theses experiences and knowledge.
Take a step back from social media.
As wonderful as social media might be, there are a lot of negative side effects that can result from it. Especially when it comes to your self-esteem. The constant bombardment of life events can cause you to feel like you’re being lapped in life. The reality of all this is that people are able to edit themselves online; they put up events or photos that they carefully curate. You never see the whole story. Remember that next time you think your friend had the perfect birthday or best wedding ever. There’s so much more to a situation than meets the eye.
If you do compare, compare with yourself.
Every day we should strive to be the best versions of ourselves. Not only for us, but for those around us. Relax and take care of yourself, mentally and physically. The more at ease we are with ourselves and our journey, the better we are at our relationships with our loved ones, with our jobs, and, of course, with ourselves. It is truly a struggle for most of us to break the chains of comparison, but the freedom found from comparing less often is worth the extra effort.
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